4 Unhealthy Styles of Communication

This month I’ve decided to feature short (at least that’s the plan) bits of random information (most of which has been gleaned from my ongoing transfer of information from the old Creator site to the new one…)

Today’s topic: Communication

Today’s source: Virginia Satir

Today’s question: How well do you communicate?

Four Unhealthy Styles of Communication

1. The Blamer–rationalizes, shifts blame, looks for a culprit. Makes comments such as: “Who messed up?” “You never do anything right.” This person lacks confidence and is afraid of being found out.

2. The Placater–tries to accommodate everyone’s demands. Failing that, the placater apologizes profusely. This person says, “If I make everyone happy, maybe they will love me.”

3. The Super-Reasoner–wants to apply details, specifics, even when not needed or appropriate. No heart. “Just the facts, ma’am!” This person feels out of control in the presence of emotions.

4. The Irrelevant Person–a master at diverting attention from the issue at hand. This person is uncomfortable about people getting to know him or her.